Moving out of Victim Consciousness / Experiencing Discomfort and Goodness

The very need to for me to have created a false image in place of my authentic self is a sign that something hurt me very deeply. The sign that my authentic self was judged as wrong or bad and that I took on those beliefs. I wanted to be someone else if the real me was so bad and horrible.  Since everything about me was on display and ridiculed at any given moment I couldn’t enjoy being alive.  My face became sullen so that no one can ever see my emotions, my shoulders have been slumped down because I’m carrying this heavy burden inside, I am realizing that I’ve been barely been breathing. After years of hiding the shame I feel I have now contacted  my true sensations, which is my true self, through somatic experiencing.  When I cut myself off from inner sensation and feelings of aliveness were replaced with getting attention, masturbation, sugar, television, gossip, and etc . . . All very short lived ways to cope with the lack of connection and longing I felt and still feel.

Dr. Peter A. Levine is the author of Healing Trauma and How to Release Trauma and Restore Goodness.  I also have his audio CD’s on Itunes he walks you you through step by step how to go from feeling numb to feeling alive (happy, peace), I started out completely numb and disassociated from any feelings in my body, now I am able to use the good feelings to heal the chaotic mass.

For the past couple of days I have been learning from  Dr. Jewel Pookrum who has been enlightening me on a bunch of topics but what really resonated with me was her lectures on victim consciousness. I decided that I do believe that I experienced cruelity for a reason that is karma related (which is my own personal belief that hasn’t just come about in a couple of days) and when I ask myself what I learned from my n-mom the most miraculous thing happens. I feel as though I am rising above being a victim being. I have began to stop avoiding the uncomfortable sensations when I see a picture of my n-mom in my mind.  Instead I feel the sensations and ask what is this being here to teach me, what am I here to teach her?

This doesn’t mean that I am not an advocate for survivors of abuse being exactly where they are in their process because I believe that I had to absolutely feel every ounce of rage that I had held in for sooooo long. It was eating me up inside and I projected the conflict I feel inside outside of myself in the form of  this everlasting enemy that seemed to be around every corner. Somatic Experiencing has helped me face the horrible sensations, the horrible sensations when allowed to be felt and held in the space of awareness actual turn into light feathery good pleasurable sensations. Sensations don’t have a face or situation, they’re just sensations.

So, now I am off to a silent retreat which is such a poetic love story to myself, from myself  because I feel like I am coming into a new dawn of my experience. I don’t believe there will be any more rants because my new question to myself when I experience something that is uncomfortable is, why did I create this, what can I learn from this?

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Aya is a Feminine Shaman that proudly shares her experiences of surviving narcissistic abuse compassionately. Her purpose is to be an inspiritress that offers alternative health solutions to bring as many to light of their personal dawn as possible. She is a sweet, youthful, benevolent spirit, who loves to share her gift of healing. She is a creator, a creative ingenue artist that is innovative to date. As a little child Aja was called "the wise woman in the basement", because adults would come and ask her for her advice and her channeled wisdom was always on point. A Gurvi, a Feminine Shaman, Reflexologist, A Dawn Goddess, An Artist, A Writer, A Public Speaker, and a regular girl.

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